Category Archives: Self-Esteem

68 Things You Should Never Do

Posted on May 6, 2013 by AnnSheybani • 11 Comments

My sister-in-law once told me that I should write a book entitled What Not to Do. She’d heard the slew of “Ann Stories” my brother liked to tell, and was horrified by my mistakes, and lack of common sense. Frankly, I think the woman was jealous of me and my big, adventurous, messed-up life. But,… Continue Reading

Filed Under: aging, books, coaching, Courage, dating, dieting, divorce, Honesty, Intimacy, marriage, mistakes, parenting, Saying no, Self-Esteem

Cheap, Cheap, Cheapskate

Posted on March 25, 2013 by AnnSheybani • 0 Comments

Want to hear something freaking fascinating? The more you invest in yourself, the more others are willing to invest in you. When you take yourself seriously, others do the same. Cheaping out on yourself isn’t noble; it’s flimsy camouflage for low self-esteem. My mother is the queen of cheap. Sifting through her kitchen cabinets a… Continue Reading

Filed Under: coaching, Confidence, Courage, Date with Destiny, desire, expectations, growing up, identity, misinterpretation, people pleasing, Self-Esteem, self-sabotage, Tony Robbins

Men Don’t Want You To Kick Their Ass

Posted on December 27, 2012 by AnnSheybani • 0 Comments

One of our greatest strength as women is our softness, our femininity. All that muscle-flexing we engage in, particuarly in the work world, doesn’t buy us respect, or love, or security; it drives men away. Insisting that you can kick his ass will not get a man all hot and bothered. Years ago I worked at a chemical… Continue Reading

Filed Under: alpha chick, Authenticity, Boundaries, choosing a mate, Confidence, connection, Courage, dating, expectations, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, limiting beliefs, misinterpretation, Self-Esteem

Nice Mrs. General Petraeus

Posted on November 27, 2012 by AnnSheybani • 5 Comments

Before we begin I would like to you to take a look at three pictures. 1. General Petraeus 2. Mrs. Petraeus 3. The Girlfriend Need I say more? OK, maybe just a little. We fool ourselves by believing that our spouses should love us no matter what. That they should remain loyal to us–… Continue Reading

Filed Under: Betrayal, divorce, expectations, General Petraeus, husband, infidelity, marriage, mistakes, risk, Self-Esteem

Wake Up And Smell the Coffee

Posted on November 16, 2012 by AnnSheybani • 0 Comments

I have this message hanging over my desk. I’m not sure who wrote it. I keep it there because there are those days that I really need the reminder. The more I look at it, the more I think it’s something I should share. Think of it as my little gift to you. Print it… Continue Reading

Filed Under: Codependency, Confidence, Courage, expectations, extreem dependency, forgiveness, growing up, identity, purpose, reinvention, Rescue, risk, Self love, Self-Esteem

Cat Shit in the Litter Box

Posted on October 16, 2012 by AnnSheybani • 2 Comments

Everybody fears that they are not enough. Everybody. My father used to say that intimacy breeds contempt. This was his favorite motto, something he repeated every day So, I grew up believing that if someone got the chance to know the real me, they would hate my guts. I worried that if they dug an… Continue Reading

Filed Under: Authenticity, connection, Honesty, identity, Intimacy, Rhonda Britten, Self love, Self-Esteem, Siddiqi Ray

You Selfish, Selfish Bitch

Posted on September 18, 2012 by AnnSheybani • 0 Comments

Here’s an eye opener. When we women don’t dare to dream or recognize our purpose, we end up placing too much emphasis on a man or our babies. When we don’t know what we want, we end up “wanting” what they want. See, if you don’t have a desires of your own, you end up… Continue Reading

Filed Under: Codependency, Confidence, Courage, desire, Empty nest syndrome, goals, husband, Mama Gena, marriage, parenting, rage, reinvention, risk, Self-Esteem, Suzanne Falter-Barns, voice

Sorry, That’s Not Going to Work For Me

Posted on June 26, 2012 by AnnSheybani • 2 Comments

Several years ago I opted to work with a Jack Canfield coach. I wasn’t sure what the arrangement was going to be like, I just knew I needed a kick in the ass so I could get out of my own way and accomplish some really big goals. I was required, as part of the… Continue Reading

Filed Under: Alcoholism, books, Boundaries, coaching, Confidence, expectations, goals, Jack Canfield, limiting beliefs, parenting, rage, Self-Esteem

And I Am A Material Girl

Posted on June 21, 2012 by AnnSheybani • 0 Comments

Dr. Gayle Hall is a cute chick in sassy heels and perfect makeup. She’s also a life coach, author, mentor, and professor. But she wasn’t always someone who had it all together. Skinny, scrawny, red-headed, and freckle-faced as a little girl, Gayle spent grade school as an outcast, the perfect punching bag for the playground… Continue Reading

Filed Under: Authenticity, choosing a mate, Confidence, dating, divorce, Dr. Gayle Hall, goals, identity, Interview, marriage, mistakes, reinvention, Self-Esteem, Starting Over

The Problem with Nice Guys

Posted on June 19, 2012 by AnnSheybani • 0 Comments

Lately I’ve been running into really nice guys who have no idea why their marriage ended. Attractive in sort of a Steve Carell way, I usually spot them standing against the wall, tapping their toes to the beat of some 70’s tune, holding a plastic cup, looking like deer in the headlights. At first glance,… Continue Reading

Filed Under: Boundaries, choosing a mate, Confidence, Courage, dating, divorce, identity, love, marriage, risk, Self love, Self-Esteem

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